In their positive aspect, spiders represent the feminine capacity for creating something beautiful that has not existed before. Spider energy is also connected with patience and success through skill. On the negative side, spiders represent small or hairy things that create big fears and a dream featuring scary spiders may be associated with personal fears to which your dreaming mind believes you are overreacting. To see a spider in your dream can also indicate that you are feeling like an outsider in some situation or that you may want to keep your distance.
A spider may represent a fear, or something or someone who makes you feel vulnerable. Perhaps you feel trapped or entangled by emotions or fears from which you cannot escape. Alternatively, are you a spider trying to trap someone else in your web or is someone trying to trap you? Freud believed that dream spiders represent the devouring mother who consumes her children through possessiveness or the ability to arouse guilt. Try to get to know, not only your mother, but more importantly, what your mother means to you. One way of doing this is to converse with the spider: hold it in your mind and ask it searching questions. Or perhaps you are feeling trapped by another relationship in your life?
Dreams of a spider in your bed may suggest that intimacy with a loved one is triggering a lack of self-confidence and fears about being vulnerable and exploited. The spider can also depict any emotions you don’t want to‘handle’, such as those surrounding a spouse leaving. It can suggest that you want to ensnare someone or something, or that you are feeling trapped yourself. It may even represent the most basic survival instincts in us-can I eat, or will I be eaten by this person or situation? Superstitions dating back to the Middle Ages claim that it is a good sign to dream of spiders. To see a black widow in your dream suggests fear or uncertainty regarding a relationship. You may feel confined, trapped or suffocated in this relationship. You may even feel hostility toward your partner. Because the female black widow has the reputation of devouring its mate, it thus also symbolizes feminine power and domination over men.